3 Conversations to Have Before You Get Engaged
By BRIDES
October 22, 2015
Getting engaged is a big deal. After all, you're deciding to spend the rest of your life with someone! But there's more to it than just a sweet proposal story and a sparkly new ring on your left hand, and there are some things you and your significant other should talk about before you decide on forever. We talked to Dr. Jane Greer, New York City -based relationship expert and author of What About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship about three big conversations you should have before you get engaged. They may not be the most romantic conversations, but addressing these hot-button topics in advance will help set you up for success. "Remember," says Greer, "in any of these conversations, if your opinions differ, ask your partner why he or she feels that way, and how strongly they hold their opinion. Is it carved in stone? Or could they see themselves changing their opinion over the years? If your partner's opinion is set, then you have to make a decision on whether this is a deal-breaker for you, or whether you're willing to change your opinion for them." See more: Our Favorite Celebrity Engagement Rings What are your
Getting engaged is a big deal. After all, you're deciding to spend the rest of your life with someone! But there's more to it than just a sweet proposal story and a sparkly new ring on your left hand, and there are some things you and your significant other should talk about before you decide on forever. We talked to Dr. Jane Greer, New York City -based relationship expert and author of What About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship about three big conversations you should have before you get engaged. They may not be the most romantic conversations, but addressing these hot-button topics in advance will help set you up for success.
"Remember," says Greer, "in any of these conversations, if your opinions differ, ask your partner why he or she feels that way, and how strongly they hold their opinion. Is it carved in stone? Or could they see themselves changing their opinion over the years? If your partner's opinion is set, then you have to make a decision on whether this is a deal-breaker for you, or whether you're willing to change your opinion for them."